Marriage Is Not for Babies
Marriage is not for babies.
Not for the faint of heart, nor for those who confuse the butterflies of romance with the backbone of commitment. It is not for those who run at the first sound of thunder, nor for those who think love is only candlelight and roses.
Marriage is for grown souls—two pilgrims who understand that love is not a playground but a pilgrimage, not a toy but a treasure, not a fleeting spark but a steady flame that must be tended with care.
Love Beyond Butterflies
When two people stand at the altar, they are not just saying, “I do.” They are saying, “I will.”
I will stand when life knocks us down.
I will love when feelings fade.
I will forgive when it hurts.
I will walk with you even through valleys where the sun forgets to shine.
Too many step into marriage thinking it is a fairy tale. But the truth is, fairy tales end at the wedding; real stories begin after it.
Real Life Example: A Test of Fire
Take the story of Chinedu and Amaka. In their first year of marriage, they were intoxicated with joy. But then life came with its storms—job loss, a miscarriage, and debts piling up. Friends whispered, “Maybe you two weren’t meant for each other.”
But instead of running, they held hands. Amaka took on two jobs. Chinedu swallowed his pride and learned a trade. Together, they built again. Years later, they now run a thriving business and cradle children who know what resilience looks like.
Marriage was not for the baby in them who wanted easy roads. It was for the grown in them who chose endurance.
Marriage Requires Maturity
- Babies want everything their way. Grown people learn to compromise.
- Babies throw tantrums when denied. Grown people learn patience.
- Babies quit when the toy breaks. Grown people repair and rebuild.
If you step into marriage without shedding childish ways, you will crush under its weight. That’s why the Scripture says:
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." (1 Corinthians 13:11)
Real Life Example: The Covenant Keeper
There’s an older couple in my community—Baba and Mama Oladipo. Married for over 50 years, they’ve walked through sickness, lack, and even seasons of misunderstanding. But ask Baba his secret and he’ll say, “I decided long ago that my vows were stronger than my moods.”
He did not stay because every day felt sweet. He stayed because covenant love demands staying power.
The Poetic Truth
Marriage is not for babies—
It is for warriors who fight selfishness.
It is for builders who lay bricks of trust daily.
It is for farmers who sow seeds of patience,
Water them with forgiveness,
And wait for the harvest of joy.
Marriage is not for babies—
It is for those who can wash the wounds of their spouse,
Even when those wounds were caused by careless words.
It is for those who can dance in the kitchen after arguments,
And pray together when all seems lost.
Marriage is for those who know love is not always a feeling,
But always a choice.
Closing Call
If you are stepping into marriage, step with open eyes. Don’t go as a baby seeking toys; go as a grown soul ready to serve, to sacrifice, and to stand.
Because marriage is not for babies—
It is for those willing to grow,
To bend,
To bleed,
And still to believe.
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